“Does he truly love me?” Just the fact that you are asking the question shows that your partner has given you reasons to doubt whether or not he’s truly sincere. That’s terribly unfortunate. There aren’t many feelings worse than not being able to trust the intentions of the person you love.
Here are a few ways to answer the question, “Does he truly love me?”
1. He puts you first.
A man in-love will move the ends of the Earth for his partner. If something is a priority for you, is it a priority for him too? Loving someone isn’t only about loving the person. It’s about understanding the things they value.
For instance, my husband doesn’t like cats, yet he treats my cat very well because he knows I love her. I don’t care about what the inside of my car looks like. My husband, however, values a clean car so I make sure that I keep it tidy. It’s about respecting the things that are important to your partner.
If your boyfriend knows how important your relationship with your family is yet he refuses to spend any holidays with them, he isn’t putting you first. He’s being selfish. Does he truly love you? Probably not.
2. He compromises with you.
This relates to number one in several ways. A man in-love will work with you to find solutions to problems. It won’t always be his way or the highway.
This is not only a crucial thing to note now, it’s also vital to a successful marriage. Someone who cannot compromise on the small things certainly won’t be willing to compromise on the big things.
It’s annoying when your husband won’t ever let you watch Grey’s Anatomy. It’s a deal-breaker if you’re religious and he doesn’t want you taking your kids to church. See how you might want to catch that early on? A man truly in-love works on ways to keep the peace.
3. He wants the very best for you – even if it’s not the best for him.
When you love someone you want them to be happy and you want them to succeed. When you truly love someone you want that happiness and success for them even if it means you’re not a part of it.
A good friend of mine got a great promotion a number of years ago and it meant moving several hours away from her live-in boyfriend. He wasn’t able to go because of a contract with his job, but he encouraged her to take it because it was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.
He had to move out of their swanky condo because he couldn’t afford the rent on his own. It cost him countless dollars on plane tickets and gas to visit her. It even meant they had to cancel their upcoming cruise because she wouldn’t be able to get the time off with the new job.
Even though it wasn’t the best for him, it was the best move for my friend. Because of this, he encouraged her and allowed for her success. He pushed for her to be the best she could be because he loved her so very much. Today they’re happily married with four children.
Of course there aren’t just three ways to answer the question, “does he truly love me,” but this is the criteria I use when both male and female friends come to me. It’s not just women who want to know if men are truly in-love. Sometimes men have a hard time figuring it out themselves!
Keep in mind that if your partner isn’t truly in-love now, it doesn’t mean he never will be. Sometimes people have a tendency to judge a relationship prematurely. If you’re in a new relationship, give it time to blossom and develop. You might just be very glad you did!